One of my friends recently asked me if I have a type because “they are never your type” talking about when girls who are interested in me. This is how I define my type, my standards.
Number 1, I must be physically attracted to her. I know some people may have an issue with this but hear me out. I know lots of people with great personalities, great skills, absolutely hilarious and are just great people but if I am not physically attracted to them then that’s where any chance of being anything more than friends ends with me. For example ladies let’s say that there is a guy and he is tall dark and handsome, or he can sing, cook and is great with kids, or whatever floats your boat, but he looks like Shrek or Lord Farquaad. That is probably a deal breaker. The same goes for the fellas. If she look can cook, likes to clean, sing and her favor sports and hobbies are your favorite sports and hobbies, but she looks like Yzma, Cruella de Vil, or Ursula that’s probably a deal breaker.
Number 2, for me she must be saved. By that I mean a Christian and a real one. I know you might be thinking “Whoa! As a Christian shouldn’t Jesus be First.” Well when I’m walking around and see a young lady the first thing that goes through my mind is “Wow, she’s pretty.” Then “I wonder if she is saved?” If I see Yzma Ursula de Vil I’m not attracted so she is not my type since she doesn’t fulfill one of my top qualifications for being “My Type.”
Number 3, this one is just a personal preference than anything but for me she must be able to cook. By cook I mean burn, throw down, she’s like a borderline professional chef and loves to cook because I love to eat.
So those are my top three and these are pretty much non negotiable. Both numbers 1 and 2 must be met and I do not compromise on those ever. Even if she is crazy for me and is the most beautiful women walking on earth if she isn’t saved and for real it’s a deal breaker. Now honestly I’m not saying that it is easy for me to keep up theses standards. Trust me it is not easy most times, but it’ll be worth it when I meet my wife and she’s all I wanted and more.
Now number 3 I am a little more flexible with but still it is very important to me, so if she just flat out refuses, doesn’t know and has no will to learn to cook, or “hates cooking” that is an instant deal breaker for me. There is ZERO chance that we could work. As saved as she could be and she could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but I can’t eat her love for Jesus and good looks.
Other preferences I have in no particular order are as it follows. She has to be in shape or fit and either doesn’t mind working out or likes or even loves to workout. I am a fairly athletic person and my lifestyle reflects so I’d like woman with that same type of lifestyle and mentality.
I am an extremely sarcastic and sometimes witty person so someone with an equal sarcastic and witty personality would be nice or thick skin because sometimes I say things that can be taking the wrong way completely and I am completely oblivious to it.
My sense of humor is pretty simple so I’ll laugh at a good amount of things so there’s that to consider. Speaking of humor I am a big kid at heart. I’d rather go see the new kid’s movie that’s out than most other movies, (unless it’s a well made superhero/action movie). For example, Furious 7 (the seventh movie in the Fast and Furious series) is a new movie that I want to see, so I’d go see that and then I’d go see Home as well. I still want to see Big Hero 6.
I don’t drink but I don’t mind if people do drink. It is the getting drunk and completely wasted consistently that I have a problem. I am also not one for clubs. So these are things that factor into looking for my future wife and things she would need to know about me.
I do not dance now but I do want to learn how to dance like ballroom dancing, the salsa and the tango.
Another major point is of major importance to me if I am saving myself for her I think I deserve someone who is doing the same, also if she already has a child than that is a deal breaker at this point in my life.
If you still skeptical about my first two standards Dr. R.A. Vernon’s 10 Rules of Dating is a great book to read (or skim) and in the first two chapters he explains exactly what I mean in greater detail. I actually read it in about two days in between classes. It’s only 100 something pages so it is not that bad at all.
So yea this is probably the most detailed written account to date of “My Type.” What do you think about “My Type?” I’m looking forward to hearing from you.